Jun 30, 2015
Who am I? It seems like it should be such a simple question and yet it feels complex almost to the brink of overwhelm. I'm Jody. I am a person. I'm a parent. I am a child. I'm a minister. I'm a daughter, cousin, niece, aunt, friend. I'm a stranger. I'm a feeling. I'm nothing. I am everything. I am confused. I am clear. I am searching. I am tired. I am worn out. I am alive. I am in love. I am love. I am grateful. I am uncertain. I am certain. I am curious. I am hopeful. I am driven. I am a critic. I am a character. I am a facilitator. I am a counselor. I am a mess. I am at peace. I am an explorer. I am lost. I am alive. And then I realize the only thing I am really sure of is that I am here and I feel a lot.
Oct 7, 2013
10 Pillars of Conscious Parenting To Support Your School Age Child
1. Connect - Children, like adults are finding a place they belong - a community; a reflection - via academics, athletics, social bonds, interests, activities - "find a way to weigh in" - your guidance is needed in order for your child to navigate this territory and make wise choices
2. Communicate - keep talking to your children - find your place of relating which will change and evolve as they (and you!) do - Enjoy the challenge and be creative! - relate and reinforce.
3. Be Available - your children are managing a lot during the day - they will greatly benefit by the refuge of your presence - it is a huge task and your great pleasure
4. Balance - find the sweet spot between overparenting and underparenting - between giving space and providing boundaries
5. Parent yourselves as well as your children - the road to self reliance and independence is a long and winding one - often found in magical moments that evolve from hard work, tough choices, a sense of humor and the truth of your own reflection in the mirror - take your own evolution seriously.
6. Your children are watching you - do you expect of yourself what you expect of them?
7. Breathe - worry and anxiety is a call to action; find your center and your children will learn to find theirs
8. Teach them how to ask good questions – Answer a question with a question
9. Stand back and allow your children to learn to acquire the courage, independence and determination that comes with recovering from disappointment, making up for a mistake, repairing a relationship and being uncomfortable.
10. Learn to say NO - and bear the wrath - your children will thank you (later!!)
Remember to reach out to others – parents, educators, counselors, coaches, friends - for support!
Sep 29, 2013
Here is a treasure trove of books, insight and inspiration by John Murphy that centers on the business portal of well being...
Great and simple article on the relevance of sleep, meditation, and hydration in well being
Apr 7, 2013
coke, pepsi, dunkin doughnuts, bud light, starbucks, red bull, welch’s, sunkist, karma café, marlboro, newport, green mountain, nestle, hint, kirkland, poland springs, chips ahoy
to satisfy the hunger and the thirst – did they?
glass, not from the sea, the kind that fell from your hand
accidently or on purpose – what purpose?
hair bands of the pony tail variety
pulled from your hair after the gym, off your wrist, before a kiss?
too many cigarette butts, cigars
staring down death
sending smoke signals
what do you want to say?
ear buds, the little rubber tires that fit over the ones in your ears
singing their song…your song
empty bottles of vodka, pinot grigio
the affects of which have long warn off
that cause flat tires
are you empty too?
a ten dollar bill, rolled and shoved in your pocket
did you let it go without a fight?
a bright and shiny penny…heads up…birthed in 2000
that still meets the light, regardless
a size 7 nike sneaker the color maroon
are you marooned?
Chewed gum…mint or lime
what are you chewing on?
screws and nails
what are you building?
have you been set free?
mother, father, grandma, babysitter?
a few lone orange peels
looking for friends
a white tile of the hexagon variety
were you walked all over?
did you decorate?
tired and worn
a tiny heart
made of stone
but maybe not
sticks and stones, rocks and paper
what do you hold together?
will you make a ball and learn to play?
a full book of matches
what will we light on fire?
the words on your cover…
“thank you, come back again”
truth is, i never left.
musings from a walk along the Hudson River...
Mar 30, 2013
Humility - remembering that we all meet in the common ground of our humanity and purpose to love and be loved.
Earth – realizing that everything and everyone on this planet is alive and in play – in this sense we are all profoundly independent, interconnected, and interdependent – in this sense we are all One.
Arts – recognizing our uniqueness and authentic truth – our unlimited potential as co-creative beings in an unlimited, ever evolving universe and the value of our one star in the sky – one drop of water in the ocean – one voice in the collective song – that affects the whole.
Root – understanding that the circumstances and stories in our lives are a perfect reflection of who we are in each moment – this reflection is an invitation and compass to make adjustments to ourselves in the direction of our dreams and in response to what we are tempted to project onto another.
Thanks, otherwise known as gratitude –acknowledging all that is happening in our lives is a response to the deep yearnings of our heart – and includes the absolute knowing that all of these circumstances and experiences are relevant and always in our best interest, regardless.
Mar 2, 2013
I sense that Interspirituality is embedded in the depths of who we already are. We instinctively know how to open up to this experience. The truth is, we are born with instructions which are found in the interior landscape of our authentic Truth – in the territory of feelings that shape the rhythms and patterns of our daily lives and that have the potential to catapult us into the present moment described as an experience beyond the perception of polarities, limitation and conflict into the mystery and perfection of Life itself. This experience occurs in the territory of the unknown in that we truly don't know how it will unfold. And so, instead of forging ahead with our own agenda, we listen deeply to the one that is unfolding in the present moment exactly as it is, knowing full well that — the path, the steps — and the directions are being revealed to us.
Interspirituality is the way in which we explore who we are beyond the convention of religion and the social norm to this depth of our Authenticity and Truth. It is an ongoing dialogue and journey of self awareness, introspection, reflection, emotional and spiritual evolution that will include growing pains and is often messy, but is also where we will discover the unconditional love and acceptance we seek outside and in others, in the refuge of our own HEART.
Interspirituality acknowledges and addresses the relationship between our personal and trans-personal selves – as it allows for unlimited uniqueness within a landscape of deep interconnectedness. And so the invitation of Interspirituality is for us to discover the truth of who we are via all that is unfolding in the present moment by peeling back the layers of separation that masquerade as separateness and to discover the common ground, regardless. It is the human experience defined as a divine, co-creative, perfect, expanding, limitless expression reflected to us in the eyes of the other and experienced by us in relationship to things, nature and each other.
Interspirituality presupposes all that emerges in our lives serves a purpose – and is a reflection of the Truth of who we are in that moment. This reflection acts as a guide in the discovery of our full potential – as one snowflake in the snow; as one star in the constellation; as one drop of water in the ocean; as one voice among many — that affects the whole. And regardless of whether or not we consciously accept this gift and responsibility, it is so. In this sense we are all profoundly independent, interconnected, and interdependent. It is in this sense that we are One.
This is the invitation of Interspirituality — to engage in this experience of creation and be free to love – the unconditional kind, not the emotionally immature kind, not the conditional kind, but a generous kind. This kind of love is miraculous, in that it is naturally inclusive, naturally expanding, naturally welcoming, naturally open, naturally available, naturally abundant, naturally dynamic, naturally tolerant, naturally forgiving, and naturally compassionate – this is our true nature. When we love we are deeply connected. It is the energy of no separation – the energy of acceptance – the energy of peace – in all of our relationships, including the one with ourselves; in deep connection with nature, among all people, all religions and spiritual traditions, and all nations.
Feb 19, 2013
So I have been told that we are currently living in the “Information Age” defined as lots of information at our fingertips that is freely shared and accessible. Some would say that there is a bit too much information – others would say that there is a difference between information and knowledge. I would add that there is a difference between knowledge and knowing…the kind that includes not knowing…the kind that is available in the present moment…the kind that is about self awareness, not self importance...the kind that leads to profound connection...the kind that is evolving, unlimited potential in motion...the kind that is not thought with the mind as much as felt through the heart which in turn directs the mind.
This path of knowing is a kind of slippery slope, because there is no map except the one you are discovering as you go and there is no guide outside of yourself – at times it is travelled with others though there will be signposts along the way – while you will be in unchartered territory, at the same time it will feel strangely familiar – it is likely you will get lost before you find anything, but what you find is parts of yourself – there will be discomfort and pain that oddly enough will make room for waves of joy and gentleness of well being. Everything you need for this journey is completely accessible inside of you, so no need to pack anything except the radical truth of who you are which requires no gear or protection.
It does appear that we are living in the "Information Age" - seems the source of the information is worth noting.
Feb 17, 2013
How many of us feel caught in the web of never enough time - to do all that tugs at us? How many of us feel that there is not enough room/space - to include a career, raising a family, an intimate relationship, friendships, passions? How many of us feel that there are not enough money/resources - to do all that we want to do or to quit a job or change a career that doesn't seem to fit, go to school or on a vacation or simply pay our bills, etc. How many of us feel that we are not enough - in the way we experience ourselves or the way we perceive being seen or appreciated by others? This seems to be another conversation that continually arises in our human experience. I can't help but feel that the core of this discomfort, as with all that seems to be unfolding in this human dimension, is in the direction of our own beliefs born out of our perception. From my direct experience I will suggest that the idea of not enough is not true. I invite you in this moment to genuinely consider the possibility that there is absolutely and unequivocally enough. That, in fact, YOU are enough. Can you just imagine the implications of living as ENOUGH?
Feb 16, 2013
I remember the first moment my experience of love was set free from my perceived needs, fear, longing, pain, confusion, sadness, and distress. In an instant, as my marriage of 10 years was dissolving, there emerged two distinct separate feeling threads – one of completely loving this man and one steeped in pain and separation. Never had I experienced such a visceral awareness of my heart opening, despite the substantial weight of a perceived loss. In hindsight, I realized this was just a peek/peak of what was to come – of my capacity to love. Over the last nearly two years I have been radically dropped into my HEART – spending more time there than in the seemingly protective, tricky and all consuming territory of my mind as I had for most of my life and sought to “make sense” of the end of another relationship – until I realized that “making sense” of it was in and of itself a distraction that caused a kind of disconnect from my heart that I was not willing to make. The ground beneath this relationship made it abundantly clear that there would be no compromising of my heart – this time , in addition to noticing love, I felt deeply compelled to choose love. And, so with my sacred chisel of radical and sometimes brutal self awareness I chipped away at the walls and the crud and the layers that had seemingly served some ancient purpose – what emerged were glimpses that turned into experiences of immense freedom and rootedness in something other than myself as my Self – unwavering…holding me completely, tenderly and gently as I cried and mourned what appeared as the loss of another (and was!), but what I discovered to be the loss of so many moments of my life where I ignored, disowned or had not yet seen parts of myself that were buried behind the walls and crud and layers – appearing in the form of relationships and opportunities that had come and gone. The common denominator in all of these relationships and situations was me – some form of me – a innocent me – who had done her best – who cared deeply – who wanted to live authentically – and whose heart felt so delicate and precious that I had mistakenly built these walls around it for protection – not realizing they would have a two-sided affect that was no longer serving me, if ever – my hearts longing for deep connection and freedom to love utterly and completely would be blessed with just that. My journey has always been an incremental one and so two years, but really 55 years into this so called life my heart opened – free from any constraint – completely alive. This is not a story of romantic love – just love – and there is still much to consider, explore, share, but just to say that our intimate relationships – especially our beloveds – are often the territory in which we make these discoveries and so in honor of what I experience as the deeper territory and invitation of Valentine’s Day, here is a Hafiz poem.
These Beautiful Love Games
Young lovers wisely say, "Let's try it from this angle,
Maybe something marvelous will happen,
Maybe three suns and two moons
Will roll out
From a hiding place in the body
Our passion has yet to ignite."
Old lovers say,
"We can do it one more time,
How about from this longitude
And latitude -
Swinging from a rope tied to the ceiling,
Maybe a part of God
Is still hiding in a corner of your heart
Our devotion has yet to reveal."
Do not stop playing